WHY DO YOU FIND IT DIFFICULT TO SAY SORRY?
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Why is it necessary to say sorry?
Obviously, sorry is a monosyllabic word that wouldn’t cost you more than a breathe to say, the moment you feel the inclination to do so. The crux is-you wouldn’t! That is where the threat to mutual peace comes in because the moment you spill water on someone’s clothes mistakenly and you refuse to utter any word, the person might take offense (depending on that individual’s personality). The comportment principle could prevent the person from reacting in an aggressive manner, and impulse can prompt the person to yell at you or slap you which would cause a scene. The latter reaction could either be as a result of impatience or transfer of aggression. You can’t blame the person for yelling at you but you are to be blamed for refusing to listen to that faint voice within pressurizing you to say something. You really don’t have to go through the extensive apology approach of employing additives and creating a ‘speech’ if you don’t want to. Since you are in a hurry or you can’t stand the embarrassment you feel when you are about to apologize, just say ‘sorry’ and that clears it.
Further, if you do not cultivate the habit of saying sorry, you would have issues with interpersonal relationships. This is because when dealing with people, you have to understand the fact that your opinion would not be accepted in all cases and the moment you get engaged in a tussle of words and ideas, there could be a clash. This clash would be prolonged if someone does not step down for another. In the process of exchanging words, insults must have been exchanged too. If one party does not apologize to the other, the clash cannot be resolved. Thus, the moment one of the parties involved says sorry (even if he or she is not at fault), there would be an atmospheric change. This way, the adamant party gets trained with the right manners (though he or she might not exhibit it immediately).
As I said in one of our earlier discussions that saying hi to that next person does not hurt you in any way, saying sorry does not shed a pint of your blood either. Rather, it has a way of dissolving tension. Imagine a scenario whereby you have an appointment with someone for a scheduled time and you arrive at about fifteen minutes after. What are you supposed to do? It is absolutely inappropriate to start off a conversation as if you have the right to waste the person’s time. The right thing to do is to apologize immediately by saying ‘I’m sorry I arrived late’, not giving an excuse-filled sermon. This alleviates whatever penalty for lateness in a way, if not completely. The best form of respect you can ever accord a person is acknowledgement, regardless of status, age, gender or race. Even if the person involved is younger than you are, not as educated as you are, or not as influential as you are, courtesy demands that you apologize.
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